My first reaction was to start rationalizing what had happened. It’s an empty road. I’m not driving dangerously, I was distracted by chatting, there are 100′s of worse drivers than me – I see them every day. The truth was that I was over the speed limit.

Later in the day I was able to reflect on the incident and start to look at things more objectively. First up, I had to accept that I was in the wrong.  I had to stop dipping in to victim mode and learn from the incident. What really helped put a different perspective on the incident was stepping in to the RCMP officers shoes. How would the incident play out from their perspective, not mine? This was a real eye opener as instead of being angry with the officers, I was understanding that they were carrying out the orders of their line manager, it wasn’t personal. I really felt that the officers would rather be doing something else other than pulling drivers over on empty roads on a Sunday morning.

So, was stepping in to someone else’s shoes just helping me reason away my behaviour? I don’t think so. Looking at things from the others perspective enabled me to close the incident as I’d accepted that I was wrong and I moved on from being a victim. I’d re-framed the incident and altered my view of what had happened.

How often do you try to make sense of your world through reasoning your behaviour? How might you benefit from re-framing a situation, a problem to solve, a decision to make?

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As someone that does sustainability on a daily basis, why on earth am I writing about Alfa Romeo cars? It’s simple really, there are a couple of reasons. First off, I love Alfa’s for their style,  personality and history. Secondly, ALFA wouldn’t  exist if someone hadn’t seen the potential in developing an Italian car manufacturer and had a vision of what that could look like.

It’s the vision that I really want to focus on. Cars were still a very new and unproven means of providing transportation so it wasn’t a foregone conclusion that starting a car manufacturing operation would be successful. However, someone had a vision and was prepared to take action to make that vision a reality.

We can turn our minds to a new year at any time, it really doesn’t have to be at the end of the calendar year. So, rather than get to the end of December and find yourself hastily making resolutions how about revisiting your someday/maybe goals now. So, what’s your big vision? What is it that really sets your ‘sporting heart’ racing? What would it take for you to select first gear and start on the road to fulfilling that vision?

Why not contact me for a complimentary ‘Refresh‘ session and hit the fast lane.